“One of the obligations of the writer is to say or sing all that he or she can, to deal with as much of the world as becomes possible to him or her in language.”
-DENISE LEVERTOV-
First of all, Welcome!
My goal is to openly (and not without effort) share the ups and downs of being a Military Wife, a mommy, and everything else that makes me who I am. The words you read here are raw and purely from my heart, as I strive to make sense out of chaos.
Thank You for taking the time to join me on this journey!
Semper Fidelis
Jessica
Hey Jessica- I am a Navy Seabee wife and have been now married 8 months and still growing and your profile is something that everyone that is a military wife cause it might help others while they are thinking that they have it hard if you know what I am talking about. well thanks again for starting this and I hope to be following everything that you post!
Sincerely,
Natalie
Hi I was wondering how your life as a seabee wife is? my boyfriend is interested in being a seabee and it makes me nervous it looks very dangerous.
look forward to hearing from you
melissa
Hi! I’m a “newbie” Army wife of 8 weeks and 5 days. My husband is almost finished with AIT and has rec’d his deployment orders. Which is all pretty normal from what I have read. My husband is in his 30′s and is considered the “old man” of his group. So we are neither one just graduating and enlisting and in our 20′s! Sooo, that makes us ahead of the “statistical curve” of Military Divorce…right??? LOL. 6 weeks into the marriage, I was preparring to leave our home state to visit him where he is stationed. He proceeded to tell me that he still loved his ex-wife and didn’t think our marriage was going to work! Since then, he has cut off ALL contact with me. I have rec’d one text message in 21 days. I went from being “baby” and “dear” and “what are we doing when you come down” to this isn’t going to work!! How can we work on our marriage if he won’t communicate with me?? Please help
Deanna
I am a military wife in Georgia. My husband is deployed in Afghanistan right now. We’ve been married 14 years and we have 4 children. My heart sank when I read your post! Don’t give up hope. I have a wonderful book to recommend that really helped my marriage a lot. This book is out of the box and might make you mad at first, because it is a real spankin’ of a book and will challenge you to humble yourself and do what you can to fight for your man. But if you stick with it there is much truth and wisdom to it. It is called “Created to Be His Helpmeet” by Debi Pearl. You can find it online. Best wishes to you!
thank you so much for the raw truth =)
My soldier and I are not married. We were planning on getting married when he gets back. He is on his 2nd 6 month deployment, and only has about 3 months left. We made it through the first one, he came home for 2 weeks, and now he is back over there. Over the past few days, he has been very distant with me. He has been distant with his family for few weeks now. Yesterday, he broke up with me. Gave a few reasons, like he didn’t want to put me through this, and that he felt God was leading him to let me go. Then he just came out and said he isn’t in love with me any more, and now he won’t talk to me at all. Completely deleted me, so all I can do is email, and he doesn’t respond. I don’t see how we could go from engaged to him not being in love with me in such short time. I feel something is wrong with him. Maybe war is getting to him? I don’t know. But I don’t know how to respond. I don’t want to lose him… Help me please… I’m so lost and confused right now.
Just give it sometime, he will be back sometimes it does that to so people.I know it’s hard I had to deal with that along with being pregnant and that was a big thing for me. The distant part not breaking up part i hope you get where im coming from.
Carrie…I am sooo sorry you are having to go through this. It’s tough. I wish I had words of wisdom to give you. The only way I know to deal with it is to turn it over to God and keep praying for your Soldier that He will lead him back in the right direction…to you and his family.
Keep the Faith!
hi everyone im a new army wife and im still learning im 20 years old and my husband has been in afganistan for 7 months we have 5 more months to go.he just left home from his leave a couple weeks ago and all he wanted to do was see his friends i would think a 23 yr old married man would want to spend to time with his wife.this deployment is very hard.lately he hasnt even been getting on skype i havent talked to him in 1 week.im ready to settle down and get out of this apartment.im ready to live the married life.but i think he’s not i want ths to work but i think he only married me to get the extra money which im not even seeing.i need some advice or someone that can relate to this how can a young married military couple keep a married together that just started?to me we have everything against are age and the army.
Amanda, I have a tons of questions for you! I have a soldier who wants to marry me. Im twenty years old as well… i want to know how you are doing it? like how was it in the beginning? My soldier is stationed in San Antonio and I live in Chicago. Its hard as it is being far away. He has been in the military for over ten years. I would like to marry him but i dont know if i can handle being a military wife
I want to know what goes through your head being so young and married to a soldier. Please Replu
I just started a facebook page “Proud Military Wife” and I would really love for you to join because I like what you have to say and I think other people would too. I am an Air Force Wife, myself, and Ive met too many young new wives that really just feel lost. I think this could be a good tool to help offer support.
Ladies,
Ask your soldier if they are being ordered to kill innocent people. That should lead you into right direction and explanation of why your soldiers are unexplainably getting distant from you.
Your just fishing, thats not why soldiers are not talk. Soldiers are doing a job and doing it very well. They follow SOP’s and posted orders of Engagement.
Lorenzo
Hi I’m a Marine wife for 13 years now and we have 3 girls. I think its so brave of u to be able to share your feelings out there for everyone to read. It makes you feel vulnerable and strong at the same time. We all go thru hard times in life and I know a lot of it does not make sense. As for me I to have been dealing with a loss. I hope we can all support each other regardleSs of the situation. Being a military wiFe is hard.
My husband is in the Marines in afgan. We are getting a divorce, and he has taken every bit of the money and transferred it somewhere. I have not gotten 1 penny to live on in 2 months. What can I do? where can I go?
Go see a personal officer in a close by base. He cannot cut funds off from you and they will straighten it out for you.
Navy retired.
Hi, I’m a navy wife, i would like to find other navy wives, from Hawaii i’m leaving for Hawaii soon, to see my husband come home. I’m new to the military life. My husband and I meet only a year ago, he asked me to married him in Jan,2010, then we got married in May,2011. This is his first deployment, and i need help, its be about 2 months since he left, i’m staying at his parents house in till i leave and i’m a mess. Seeing his pictures everywhere, staying in his room. I would like some help with all the mix feelings i have. Is there any wives in Hawaii or where ever that could help me.
Thanks
The Wives of Pearl Harbor
https://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=136064322402
Navy Wives
https://www.facebook.com/groups/USNavyWives/?ref=ts
It is very hard. I tried to keep our relationship going during my husband’s first active duty tour. He is in northern California and I am in southern California. I just found out that he has been having an affair
He won’t break it off so I guess that means a divorce. This hurts. When he first left we discussed the importance of being open and honest and in contact so our lives would not fracture to two lives instead of focusing on our life together. He just grew further apart from me and really enjoyed not being accountable to anyone.
My boyfriend is offically going into the navy in about 8 months, paperwork done and everything. We plan on getting married so i can go with him where ever he goes (pretty much). i think i can handle it but then again we have been with each other almost EVERY single day since we got together, will i be able to handle it when he has to go away for months at a time? Also I dont do well living by myself because i get paranoid. but ill be on a safe military base right? i mean, is it worth a shot, because i dont see myself without him..
I have been married to an airforce guy for 11 years and we are in the process of divorcing. I can’t take his alcoholism anymore and his chat room visits with other women. He totally changed into some creepy guy that I can’t trust. When he went on TDY it was a total party for him and vacation while I’m like a single parent here taking care of 2 kids. I had no idea he would turn out like this, but being around all these other guys who cheat and talk about their flings gave him good ideas. He totally checked out of our marriage and did what ever he felt, and thought he would never get caught!
Hi Ladies,
I am looking for some Mom’s who have spouses in the military or mom’s that are in the military. We are looking for Mom’s in the Frisco/Dallas Texas area. We are having an event where we would like to honor Military Mom’s in a parade.
Hanna Andersson will have a float in the local Frisco Community Parade on Saturday, November 12th. We are in need of 2-3 Military Spouses and/or Moms who are enrolled in the military to be on our float. With the theme of the parade being Hero what better person to honor! Each mom will have the chance to ride on our float and/or walk along side to pass out candy and fliers. Along with a $250 American Express gift card, these participants will also receive Hanna Andersson clothes to wear during the parade and to keep for afterwards! Please feel free to recommend anyone that you believe would be a great fit for our parade!
Please contact Megan at megan@bsmmedia.com for any questions and more about this opportunity.
hi, im a new military wife, with a 4 month old baby. my husband joined the Air Force and right now he’s away for BMT. He said that he joined for the experience and to take care of me and our baby. do you think things will change? because im reading some of these stories and its kind of scaring me. we both said we would do anything to make our marriage work because we both love eachother very much. Some advice please?