Comments for life...love...and aftershocks

Comment on Seven by Jan

Jan — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 20:01:29 +0000

Thank you for continuing to post about Lexie. I’m not as far in my grief journey- it’s been “only” three years since my infant son passed away in my arms. Of course it still impacts me- and those who haven’t walked in our shoes just don’t understand it. Sending you hugs from one angel mommy to another.

Comment on Home by Alicia Martinez

Alicia Martinez — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 05:47:04 +0000

hi, im a new military wife, with a 4 month old baby. my husband joined the Air Force and right now he’s away for BMT. He said that he joined for the experience and to take care of me and our baby. do you think things will change? because im reading some of these stories and its kind of scaring me. we both said we would do anything to make our marriage work because we both love eachother very much. Some advice please?

Comment on Saving the Military Marriage by Emmie

Emmie — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 19:32:06 +0000

I agree so much! Even though I knew some of what I was getting into and my husband and I have known each other for years, you cannot have a real picture until you are living this life. It is so much more difficult than I anticipated. In the past two years, we have only lived together for 3.5 months. I am a full time working mom of two teens (from my first marriage) and our four month old daughter. He is deployed and will have been gone a year when he gets back. Our communication is mostly limited to email. All this is to say that this life is hard no matter who you are. We are in our early 40s, knew each other more than 20 years before we got married, and it has still put a lot of stress on us and our marriage. Thank you for posting!

Comment on Home by Chuck

Chuck — Thu, 24 Nov 2011 19:02:55 +0000

Go see a personal officer in a close by base. He cannot cut funds off from you and they will straighten it out for you.
Navy retired.

Comment on Home by Samantha McAiney

Samantha McAiney — Mon, 31 Oct 2011 15:39:21 +0000

Hi Ladies,

I am looking for some Mom’s who have spouses in the military or mom’s that are in the military. We are looking for Mom’s in the Frisco/Dallas Texas area. We are having an event where we would like to honor Military Mom’s in a parade.
Hanna Andersson will have a float in the local Frisco Community Parade on Saturday, November 12th. We are in need of 2-3 Military Spouses and/or Moms who are enrolled in the military to be on our float. With the theme of the parade being Hero what better person to honor! Each mom will have the chance to ride on our float and/or walk along side to pass out candy and fliers. Along with a $250 American Express gift card, these participants will also receive Hanna Andersson clothes to wear during the parade and to keep for afterwards! Please feel free to recommend anyone that you believe would be a great fit for our parade!

Please contact Megan at megan@bsmmedia.com for any questions and more about this opportunity.

Comment on Home by anonamous

anonamous — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 01:20:05 +0000

I have been married to an airforce guy for 11 years and we are in the process of divorcing. I can’t take his alcoholism anymore and his chat room visits with other women. He totally changed into some creepy guy that I can’t trust. When he went on TDY it was a total party for him and vacation while I’m like a single parent here taking care of 2 kids. I had no idea he would turn out like this, but being around all these other guys who cheat and talk about their flings gave him good ideas. He totally checked out of our marriage and did what ever he felt, and thought he would never get caught!

Comment on Saving the Military Marriage by Crystal

Crystal — Sat, 22 Oct 2011 15:38:22 +0000

I don’t think this is true at all. Although it may be a factor for many, military life is extremely hard on a family. My husband and I have known each other for 10 years. We have been married for over 2 years and have not spent an anniversary together. On top of that, we are facing our second deployment within one year.

I love my husband very much and took a long hard look at whether we were ready to be married or not. We love each other deeply. Unfortunately, there are many factors we face that others do not. Being a military family has so many challenges that are impossible to recognize before. Yes, we can know what we will face, but the emotions and actions happen at the moment.

On top of a constant stress of death, divorce, cheating and feeling left behind, wives and husbands deal with not knowing their children or having to get back to having a “family” life every time they come home. The adjustments are incredibly hard for anyone to take. Being young is very hard when it comes to dealing with these things, but the hardships and stress cross all age, race, religion, etc. lines. This is hard no matter who you are and that is what people have to see. Unfortunately it is damn near impossible to see until you are living it.

Comment on Home by Callie

Callie — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 05:32:52 +0000

My boyfriend is offically going into the navy in about 8 months, paperwork done and everything. We plan on getting married so i can go with him where ever he goes (pretty much). i think i can handle it but then again we have been with each other almost EVERY single day since we got together, will i be able to handle it when he has to go away for months at a time? Also I dont do well living by myself because i get paranoid. but ill be on a safe military base right? i mean, is it worth a shot, because i dont see myself without him..

Comment on Saving the Military Marriage by Nicole

Nicole — Sat, 20 Aug 2011 04:59:14 +0000

Everyones comments here are all very interesting, real and personal. I have been a military wife for almost 8 years now and my husband deploys very often. We have never had any serious problems worth fighting over. Depoyments seemed to keep our relationship fresh, new and very intimate. However, this past almost year he hasn’t gone anywhere for very long and we have had the roughest patch ever… to the point where we are anxiously waiting for training or school or deploymet. He loves his job and I love love that he loves it. This might sound wrong to some people but, honestly seeing eachother for a year everyday almost, that gets exhausting.

Comment on Home by Jessica Yahn

Jessica Yahn — Fri, 19 Aug 2011 21:01:23 +0000

The Wives of Pearl Harbor
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Navy Wives
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